Marriage Forensics: Cheryl Cole

Musical careers bring too much hype to focus on a spouse. Concentrate on your son til he is grown is our advice.

Cheryl Cole, new administrator of the $32 M Liam Payne estate, is being given the chance to be in the public eye, not because of her serial love affairs, but now for the chance to make visible the example of a good mother and financial steward to their son Bear.

Cheryl Cole, reality contestant judge and pop-star of high level, started as an anonymous singer and girlfriend of footballer, neighbor Ashley Cole. They were both from wounded families. The half-Bahamanian player was raised by a single mum after his dad left them while very young. Cheryl's mom never divorced from her first husband and bore Chery and her sibling from her partner, but in Cheryl's mind, their break-up when she was ten was still traumatizing.

Ashley, Cheryl's covenant husband, would do sexting, hook-ups and actual affairs while traveling for games during their marriage, admitting to the media that their sex life has dried up. Cheryl never wanted to be identified as a footballer WAG, seemingly insisted at her primary image as a popstar and soon their $1 M tabloid price tag for their wedding photos would be forgotten in the headlines that their celebrity marriage was on the rocks. Ashley, already with a poor image of what a proper man should be, thanks to an absentee dad, would be abandoned by the caring figure that he thought he was married to, and instead the high-physical, high-stress life in soccer leagues will have no wife to go home to, as she was tending more dearly to her girl-band then singing judge life. They would have no children, and divorce was granted easily, Cheryl ranting in memoirs how he destroyed their marriage with a f--k that she hopes was worth it. Was it worth working that hard?

Lonely and rudderless, with millions now to her name, she hit the high circuit and remarried a French art dealer Jean-Bernard Fernandez-Versini after three weeks of meeting. By the time one says and remember his name, the marriage evaporated. What would one expect from a second, non-covenant marriage?

To a woman who is UK's sweetheart and have no man, it would simply be a disgrace. So Cheryl has to look up old contacts and the cutie that she complimented when he was 14 has already become a successful manufactured band member like herself--wealthy and wise in the way of girlfriends. Liam Payne has an intact mother and father, but has been contaminated by early sex that he is pro-choice and pro-abortion. God knows how many young souls have been snuffed as groupies and girlfriends streamed by him and his One Direction mates.

Cheryl, pretty and popular A-lister despite their ten-year age difference, would rankle from the bigger name he would become once he launched his solo career, getting millions of downloads from his first solo song.

The tours and separation Cheryl gave to her husband Ashley when they were together was simply Liam's expectation of his life as a successful musician, and besides, they were not married. Why even pretend it will work?

There are single parents who created an honorable life for themselves after being in the spotlight for poor relationship choices. Cheryl pretty much blames men and machismo for the downturns in her life and claim Liam as the only man faithful to her, a nod perhaps to his own mother and father staying together this long and are monogamous. Yet Cheryl could never be the age-appropriate life partner destined for Liam as it seems that they were simply a filler for the real deal.

In Cheryl's case the real deal has passed in the person of her covenant spouse Ashley who may or may not had the desire to stay monogamous, but perhaps would have a better chance at it if Cheryl was more of a physical and sexual, rather than absent support. Liam sadly, however he may be hooked on drugs to cover up inadequacies and pain from previous failed relationships that may have had abortions embedded it in cannot not speak of a joyful family life his own parents had and the closest approximation is having his mini-me Bear and yet wondered why it is worth having more of him in this world.

Preserving your chastity is preserving your joys. It is as simple as that.